Judgement Free January

January often brings a list of new rules we impose on ourselves.  I’m not a fan. It usually comes from a place of not liking ourselves, self-judgement, guilt, and force. Bleh. I don’t think that any of those propel us towards any real positive change. That’s why people white-knuckle through for a bit and then give up. 

Instead I like to have what I call (self-)judgement-free January. All I give up is the cycle of self-judgement and not feeling good enough. And, since it’s always the first question…of course I slip up and my primal, habitual brain judges before I have a chance to catch it. 

I treat it like a game. I try to catch them and dissolve the judgement. If it helps, you can give yourself double points for not judging a judgment so it evens out. 

The hold point is that the judgements aren’t what lead you to making improvements in your life. Feeling good about yourself and deciding to make any changes from a positive place does. 

Just because I’m not judging myself this month doesn’t mean that I’m not also finding ways to be deliberate about what improvements I want to make and finding ways to positively look for ways to execute on those changes. 

If there’s something you’ve “wanted” to change for ages and you keep having the same resolution that you give up on. Take a step back. Clean up your approach. Drop the judgement and try again when you can make any of those changes from a place that has your back and feels good in the process.